Proverbs Tag

How do you handle your money? (Proverbs)

How do you handle your money?

3 Shovels That Dig Your Hole

Proverbs 22:7 The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower is the slave of the lender.

Car debt
College debt
Credit card debt

Average American has $38,000 in debt not including mortgage if they own their residence
• Average credit card balance in AZ is about the national average: $6,389

5 Money Personalities

The Hoarder – money gives me security
The Spender – money gives me rewards
The Avoider – money and bills stress me out
The Hater – money is evil and dangerous
The Manipulator – money buys me influence/control
The Show-Off – money gives me status through possessions
The Giver – money is how I show God and people love

= Money Personalities cause strain in a marriage

3 Perspectives of Possessions

What’s mine is mine – selfish

Proverbs 1:19 [NLT] Such is the fate of all who are greedy for money; it robs them of life.

What’s yours is mine – stealing

Proverbs 30:15 [ESV] The leech has two daughters: Give and Give…never satisfied…never say, “Enough”:

What’s mine is His – stewarding

Proverbs 21:26 [NLT] Some people are always greedy for more, but the godly love to give!

Rich and Poor in Proverbs

·Culture – political war rich vs poor (class wars)
Church – poverty vs prosperity theology

Ungodly Poor

Proverbs 10:4 [NIV] Lazy hands make a man poor…

Godly Poor

Proverbs 28:6 [NIV] Better a poor man whose walk is blameless than a rich man whose ways are perverse.

Ungodly Rich

Proverbs 15:27 [ESV] Whoever is greedy for unjust gain troubles his own household…

Godly Rich

Proverbs 10:22 The blessing of the LORD brings wealth, and he adds no trouble to it.

Financial Planning

Proverbs 21:5 The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.

Proverbs 15:22 Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.

Proverbs 16:3 Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.

God and Government

Tithe: Proverbs 3:9 Honor the LORD with your wealth, with the firstfruits of all your crops…

Taxes: Romans 13:7 Give everyone what you owe him: If you owe taxes, pay taxes…

Forbes & Wallet Hub named AZ the least charitable state in U.S. (despite Mormons)
Expenses

Proverbs 22:26-27 [NIV] Do not be one who shakes hands in pledge or puts up security for debts; if you lack the means to pay, your very bed will be snatched from under you.

housing – usually the biggest expense, roughly 25% of income
auto – 2nd highest expense (i.e. maintenance, gas, insurance). Half of cars 10 years and older are on the road, and 200k miles is the deterioration point for most metal. New cars depreciate 15%-25% when driven off the lot. Older cars are cheaper (parts, taxes, insurance, tabs) and it is best to buy from friends and family.
food – lack of meal planning & eating out drive this upward
debt elimination – women ages 21-34 are most likely to have credit card debt
insurance (medical, dental, renters/homeowners, disability, life, comprehensive auto)

Savings

Proverbs 30:25 Ants are creatures of little strength, yet they store up their food in the summer…

Proverbs 13:11 Dishonest money dwindles away, but he who gathers money little by little makes it grow.

6 months of your expenses in an accessible account,
2nd account saving for large upcoming purchases

Investments

Proverbs 13:22 A good man leaves an inheritance for his children’s children…

Proverbs 27:23-24 Be sure you know the condition of your flocks, give careful attention to your herds; for riches do not endure forever, and a crown is not secure for all generations.

Investment portfolio – college fund, stocks, bonds, real estate etc.

4 Reasons For Christians Give Generously?

1.    God takes our worst and gives his best

John 3:16 “God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

Your wallet is God’s scalpel for heart surgery

Matthew 6:21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

“Don’t tell me where your priorities are. Show me where you spend your money and I’ll tell you what they are.” Former Notre Dame vice-president James W. Frick

You cannot take it with you, but you can send it ahead

Matthew 6:19-20 Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal.

Heaven is an investment account

4.Giving is a blessing 

Acts 20:35 ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ ”

God is a generous Father who wants us to enjoy & share with his other kids
Givers are forgivers who live better lives

How do you win at work? (Proverbs)

How do you win at work?

40-50 hours a week (vs e.g. motherhood)

X 50 weeks a year = 2,000-2,500 hours a year

X 40 years = 80,000-100,000 hours a life

How does Christian faith work at work?

5 Ways to Worship at Work?

Since God works, work is godly
Genesis 2:2 on the seventh day God finished his work that he had done, and he rested on the seventh day from all his work that he had done.
Work is now cursed
The curse has made work toil (Genesis 3:16, 3:17-19).
We should work from our rest
Exodus 31:15 For six days, work is to be done, but the seventh day is a Sabbath of rest, holy to the LORD.
Your work is part of your worship
Jesus spent 90% (30 years) working a regular job which was God’s will for Him
Jesus spent 10% (3 years) working a ministry job which was God’ will for Him
Work is not sacred and secular, but workers are sacred and secular

Colossians 3:23-24 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.

            “Your work is a very sacred matter.  God delights in it, and through it He wants to bestow His blessings on you. This praise of work should be inscribed on all tools, on the forehead and faces that sweat from toiling.”  Martin Luther

            Carpentry, tent making, fishing, medicine, teaching, farming, politics, metal work, music, investing, labor, construction, law, consulting, cooking, architecture, athletics, entertainment, banking, military, real estate, clothing, mothering, sales, etc. in Bible.

The Ideal Team Player (Patrick Lencioni)

Principle – a mediocre team always beats a world class superstar

God works as a team (Trinity, human team, angelic team)

Humble  2. Relationally Smart 3. Hungry

A Humble Team Player

Proverbs 3:7 [ESV] Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.

Humility begins with being under authority before being in authority

Proverbs 3:34 [ESV] Toward the scorners he is scornful, but to the humble he gives favor.

Humility admits a need for grace

Proverbs 27:18 He who tends a fig tree will eat its fruit, and he who looks after his master will be honored.

Humility works hard and honors leadership

Proverbs 11:16b-17 …ruthless men gain only wealth. A kind man benefits himself, but a cruel man brings trouble on himself.

Humility considers people and not just profit

Proverbs 15:22 Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.

Humility sees life as a class that’s always in session

A Relationally Smart Team Player

Proverbs 14:16-17 A wise man fears the Lord and shuns evil, but a fool is hotheaded and reckless. A quick-tempered man does foolish things, and a crafty man is hated.

Your relationship with God straightens out all other relationships

Proverbs 19:26 He who robs his father and drives out his mother is a son who brings shame and disgrace.

Your relationship with your family reveals your character

Proverbs 28:15 Like a roaring lion or a charging bear is a wicked man ruling over a helpless people.

Your relationships need to be based on God’s Kingdom, not the animal kingdom

Proverbs 11:13 A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.

Your relationships need a bank vault

Proverbs 28:23 [NLT] In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.

Your relationships are to be mirrors, not carnival mirrors

Proverbs 15:18 A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel.

Your relationships needs a thermostat

Proverbs 17:14 Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.

Your relationships can be broken and flow downstream to other relationships

A Hungry Team Player

Proverbs 16:26 The laborer’s appetite works for him; his hunger drives him on.

Hungry people start their own engine

Proverbs 10:4 Lazy hands make a man poor, but diligent hands bring wealth.

Hungry people are hardworking

Proverbs 14:23 All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.

Hungry people know that when all is said and done more is said than done

Proverbs 28:19-22 He who works his land will have abundant food, but the one who chases fantasies will have his fill of poverty.

Hungry people know a mirage when they see one

Proverbs 22:29 Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will serve before kings; he will not serve before obscure men.

Hungry people are known for the quality of their work

Ideal Team Player:

What teams are you on (work, family, church, sports, hobbies, etc.)?
What kind of team player were you in the past?
What kind of team player are you in the present?
What kind of team player do you want to be in the future?

= The Holy Spirit is on the same team as you

How do you find good friends? (Proverbs)

6 Kinds of Relationships  

Interact 500-2500 people a year 
Jesus constant crowds – sick, demon possessed, needed, mental illness, disciples, critics 
How did Jesus remain healthy & have relationships w/unhealthy people 

3 Ways to View People 

John 2:24-25 (NLT), “But Jesus didn’t trust them, because he knew all about people. No one needed to tell him about human nature, for he knew what was in each person’s heart.” 

Naive
Paranoid 
Discerning 

Treat Different People Differently 

Proverbs 24:1-3, 5-7 Be not envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them, for their hearts devise violence, and their lips talk of trouble…A wise man is full of strength, and a man of knowledge enhances his might, for by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory. Wisdom is too high for a fool; in the gate he does not open his mouth.

Wise People 

Proverbs 9:8-9 “…correct the wise, and they will love you. Instruct the wise, and they will be even wiser. Teach the righteous, and they will learn even more.”

No one is wise in every area 

Wise – not smart 

Humble
Teachable
Embraces Reality
Empathy
Responsible
Seeks to learn & grow
Welcomes messenger

= conflict & correction grows relationship 

= more time, energy, money, access, information 

Live by Spirit = Personal Relationship

Foolish People 

Proverbs 1:7“…fools despise wisdom and discipline.”

Proverbs 26:3 “Guide a horse with a whip, a donkey with a bridle, and a fool with a rod to his back!”

Everyone foolish in areas & at times 

Foolish – not dumb = Pastoral 

Proud (conflict)
Unteachable
Denies Reality
Selfish (low empathy)
Irresponsible Victim
Wants others to change, not them
Shoots messenger

= Fun, people enjoy but do not respect 

= irresponsible, shift responsibilities & burdens to others, Bad gas mileage 

= consequences, boundaries, 

Live by Flesh = Pastoral Relationship 

Evil People

Proverbs 2:12-15 “Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted. These men turn from the right way to walk down dark paths. They take pleasure in doing wrong, and they enjoy the twisted ways of evil. Their actions are crooked, and their ways are wrong.”

Dangerous
Righteous victim
Tormented & tormenting
Hurt & hurting
Entitled
Threatening
Bitter envy & selfish ambition

= if you engage, you will enrage (Judas) 

= protect, separate, necessary ending, set boundaries w/foolish people, pray for professionals

Live by Demonic = Professional Relationship

6 Kinds of Relationships 

Wise + Foolish = parental relationship 
Wise + Evil = distant relationship
Foolish + Foolish = codependent relationship
Foolish + Evil = abusive relationship 
Evil + Evil = dangerous relationship 
Wise + Wise = healthy relationship

4 Closing Questions

Are there any areas of your life that are foolish or evil? 
Which relationships with foolish people do you need to manage better this year? 
Which relationships with evil people do you need to protect yourself from this year?
Who do you love that you should share this information with? 

How do you emotionally heal from a hurt? (Proverbs)

How do you emotionally heal from a hurt?

Our story – most difficult season invited wise counsel. Unique biblical insight, way of helping

The Hurt Cycle

Life hurts. Financially, emotionally, spiritually, physically etc.
We experience hurt – then we 1.  interpret why it happened and 2. our response

3 responses

1). Evil- justify hurting others out of your hurt

2), Foolish – ignore, blame shift, excuse make, deferred life maintenance until pain

3). Wise – seeks God and wise counsel to interpret the root cause & solution

Wise Counsel

Wise counsel listens to hurt person 1.What happened? 2. Why? 3.  How responding?
You know you’ve hit a hurt when someone overreacts
Wisdom is knowing which truth applies to each person/situation
We worsen hurt when we give the wrong prescription

Job is a case study in misdiagnosis

Is your hurt caused by your sin?

Proverbs 20:9 [NIV] Who can say, “I have kept my heart pure; I am clean and without sin”?

We all fail and fall so we need to be willing to not just feel hurt but consider why
Wisdom requires we seek patterns to our behavior

Proverbs 19:3 [ESV] When a man’s folly brings his way to ruin, his heart rages against the Lord.

Sometimes we are angry at God and feel justified in bad behavior
Until the heart has the “want to” there is no benefit from the “how to”

Proverbs 14:16 [ESV] One who is wise is cautious and turns away from evil, but a fool is reckless and careless.

Solution: Repentance is turning away from evil, change of 1. head 2. heart 3. hands
Did someone sin against you and hurt you?

Proverbs 14:10 [ESV] The heart knows its own bitterness, and no stranger shares its joy.

Torment moves into a bitter heart
Unforgiveness robs life of all joy
Relive & Retell

Proverbs 23:17 [ESV] Let not your heart envy sinners, but continue in the fear of the Lord all the day.

Temptation to return evil for evil (vengeance, self-justify)

Proverbs 24:17 [ESV] Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles…

Test of forgiveness is whether you want them to be blessed or cursed 

     What forgiveness is not

Forgiveness is often a private matter between only you and God.
Forgiveness is both a one-time event and an ongoing process. (Matt 18:21-22 70X7)
Forgiveness is not enabling crime, foolishness, irresponsibility, or sin.
Forgiveness is not trust or reconciliation.
Your forgiveness is not God’s forgiveness. (cross or hell)

Forgiveness is

Responding to Jesus instead of the hurt (forgiven people should forgive people)
Transferring the burden to God
Stopping trying to control people and outcomes
Letting go of both the sin and the stress
What powerful lies are you believing?

Proverbs 14:25 [ESV] A truthful witness saves lives, but one who breathes out lies is deceitful.

Life decisions are based upon truth/reality; or lies/deception

Proverbs 12:17 [ESV] Whoever speaks the truth gives honest evidence, but a false witness utters deceit.

When hurt, Satan and people working for him show up to give false witness
Wisely choose who you listen to & learn from
You are the loudest voice in your life
What foolish choices have made your life harder?

Proverbs 14:14 [ESV] The backslider in heart will be filled with the fruit of his ways, and a good man will be filled with the fruit of his ways.

Sliding back to foolish choices

Proverbs 23:23 [NLT] Get the truth and never sell it; also get wisdom, discipline, and good judgment.

Principle of sowing-reaping
Principles of delayed gratification
How has life broken you?

Proverbs 15:13 [ESV] A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed.

Proverbs 17:22 [NLT] A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.

Bad people & broken people can be hard to distinguish

2 kinds of brokenness 1). Hopeless – not taken to God to remake 2). Hopeful – God rebuilds

=  Reset and rehabilitate – body or soul 

Do you feel guilty, dirty, or undeserving?

Proverbs 30:12 [ESV] There are those who are clean in their own eyes but are not washed of their filth.

Bible uses dozen words – defilement, unclean, filth,
Causes shame, hiding, fig leaves to cover up

            Identity based on 1). What I have done 2). What done to me 3). What done for me JC

Who or what do you fear?

Proverbs 12:25 [ESV] Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down…

Proverbs 3:24 [NLT] You can go to bed without fear; you will lie down and sleep soundly.

Fear of tomorrow robs you of today
Fear turns us into false prophets
Fear is most gripping for trauma victims, high control people, & false prophets

Proverbs 29:25 [NLT] Fearing people is a dangerous trap, but trusting the Lord means safety.

Fear of man. Their opinion matters too much. Your decision based upon their reaction

Have you hardened your heart?

Proverbs 28:14 [ESV] Blessed is the one who fears the Lord always, but whoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity.

Life does not determine the condition of your heart, you do

“The same sun that melts the ice hardens the clay”

Hard heart leads to a non-relational lifestyle with God & the people who love us most

How do you have a great marriage? (Proverbs)

How do you have a great marriage?
Friends 40-year wedding anniversary
Our 27th was Thursday

#1. Faith

Proverbs 1:7 [ESV] The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.

Fear

Respect & reverence, honor and humility, priority and purpose.
God first in everything
What is right in the sight of God?

Everyone needs a new beginning. My testimony

Proverbs 28:14 [ESV] Blessed is the one who fears the Lord always, but whoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity.

Honor goes up, blessing comes down
God wants your heart 
God does not bless people, God does bless heart conditions

Jesus taught that hardness of heart was the cause of divorce (Matt. 19:18)

Proverbs 31:11,30 [ESV] The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain…Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

You need God
No one else can meet your relational needs
Healthy relationship w/God – example & resources for healthy relationships

Faith is belief that directs behavior

2 faiths – highest divorce rates
1 shared XN faith
lowest divorce rates, lowest domestic violence rates,
highest – happy wives, father involve w/kids, affectionate dads, empathetic husbands 

We did not start w/faith. I was unbelieving/religious. Grace was believer/rebellious

#2. Forgiveness

Proverbs 20:9 [NIV] Who can say, “I have kept my heart pure; I am clean and without sin”?

Reality

Sin – shortcoming, wrong doing, rebellion, folly

Why do we sin?  

Sigmund Freud – primal urges
Carl Jung – Collective unconsciousness from our racial history
Carl Rogers – forgot our goodness, picked up some bad habits from others
Bible – children of Adam (Rom. 5:12-21)

Proverbs 14:16 [ESV] One who is wise is cautious and turns away from evil, but a fool is reckless and careless.

Repentance

Change mind & heart = change of decision & direction

Proverbs 13:21 [ESV] Disaster pursues sinners, but the righteous are rewarded with good.

Reward

Dr. John Gottman – 16 yrs, observed 49  married couples in an apartment/lab
Recorded everything from facial expressions to heart rate – 91% divorce prediction

4 Horsemen

“harsh startup”

Criticism – naming the sin, attacking the person not the problem
Contempt – disgust, name calling, mocking, provoking body language (roll eyes, glaring)
Defensiveness – guilty person doubles down, excuses, blame-shifts
Stonewalling – Cold War (85% x husband) – heart divorce before the legal divorce 

Sin leads to death, Jesus leads to life.

Taught us to pray (Matt. 6) “forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors”
Everyone has a record of debt to God & others (Col. 2:13-15)
Jesus does not make us pay (mercy). Jesus does pay for us (grace) 

= There is no personal health without forgiveness for you & others (mind, body, heart)

=  There is no relationship without forgiveness. Test? Bless!

SHOVEL Story

#3. Friendship

Proverbs 18:24 [ESV] A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Friends are Rare

Friendship- overused word (all friendships are relationships, not all relationships are friendships)

Quantity vs Quality of relationship (social media followers vs friends) 
Friendly toward all, friends with a few

Proverbs 13:20 [ESV] Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.

Friends are wise, foolish, evil
Am I a wise friend? Am I picking wise friends?
You need to agree on personal friends and couple friends
Friendship with the wise, ministry to the foolish
Jesus is the wisest friend to walk with (“One wiser than Solomon is here”)

Proverbs 17:17 [ESV] A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

You find out who your friends are in tough times
70% women & men want friendship w/spouse (Gottman)  
Friendship defends against domineering

Back to Back, Shoulder to Shoulder, Face to Face & our story

Night before wedding stayed w/uncle John (Glady’s story)

#4. Fun

Proverbs 15:13-19, 22 [NLT] A glad heart makes a happy face; a broken heart crushes the spirit. A wise person is hungry for knowledge, while the fool feeds on trash. For the despondent, every day brings trouble; for the happy heart, life is a continual feast. Better to have little, with fear for the Lord, than to have great treasure and inner turmoil.  A bowl of vegetables with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. A hot-tempered person starts fights; a cool-tempered person stops them. A lazy person’s way is blocked with briers, but the path of the upright is an open highway…Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.

Look back to the past – take photos, capture memories & revisit them
Look now to the present – windows of opportunity
Look forward to the present – ask spouse & make plans

How do you raise kids you enjoy? (Proverbs)

How do you raise kids you enjoy?

1st day of school – this year vs little years

Overheard a conversation

Parent #1 “I’m so glad summer is over. I hate having the kids around all the time”
Parent #2 “Really, I love having the kids around all the time and get sad when school starts”

The goal is not to endure your child, but enjoy your child

Psalm 127:3 [NASB] Behold, children are a gift of the Lord

Gifts are to be enjoyed

Proverbs: “Want to” vs “How to”

Proverbs is Practical
Proverbs is Pithy – 31 chapters, 1X day
Proverbs is Principles not Promises

Wisdom vs Folly 

law/grace         oppression/deliverance                        truth/lies;         

Smart people get good grades, wise people live good lives
Wisdom is the path to Spirit-filled living

Find the Center of Your Family

Proverbs 1:2-7 [NLT] Their [Proverbs] purpose is to teach people wisdom and discipline, to help them understand the insights of the wise. Their purpose is to teach people to live disciplined and successful lives, to help them do what is right, just, and fair. These proverbs will give insight to the simple, knowledge and discernment to the young. Let the wise listen to these proverbs and become even wiser. Let those with understanding receive guidance by exploring the meaning in these proverbs and parables, the words of the wise and their riddles. Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.

School/Grades  Sports/Winning  Making $/Work  Fear/Control  Crisis/Emergency  Comfort/Left alone

Center – God (God 1st)
Priority – school of wisdom (every parent homeschools)
Knowledge is knowing the truth, wisdom is knowing what to do with the truth. 
Knowledge it theoretical, wisdom is practical.
Knowledge fills your mind, wisdom guides your life.
Knowledge is truthful, wisdom is useful.
Knowledge provides information, wisdom provides transformation.

= You can have knowledge without wisdom, but you cannot have wisdom without knowledge.

Where is Wisdom?

1.Scripture 2.Prayer 3.HS 4. General rev 5. Wise counsel 6. Your experience 7. Their experience

Center & Priority – God & wisdom or…

Learn the Heart of Parenting  

Proverbs 4:23 [NIV] Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

900+ X Bible – Emotional center
Cause/heart – Effect/behavior

Parents Heart

How’s your heart (speech flows heart – cursing, yelling, name calling, selfish motives)
God needs to parent your heart before you parent their heart

Child’s Heart

Needs a new heart to be cared for

India further downstream = more pollution

4 Kinds of Kids

Bad heart bad behavior
Bad heart good behavior
Good heart bad behavior
Good heart good behavior

Tips for Training

Proverbs 22:6 [ESV] Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Parents are primary
Every child is trained. Not every child is trained in wisdom
Parenting is about sowing and reaping
Repetition is required
Mom and dad unified vision
Training can be exhausting because class is always in session (tv/movie pause)
View, Voice, Vote (AZ move vs restaurant)
Teach kids what is happening and why (flight prep)

Connect Before You Correct

Proverbs 4:1-5 [ESV] Hear, O sons, a father’s instruction, and be attentive, that you may gain insight, for I give you good precepts; do not forsake my teaching. When I was a son with my father, tender, the only one in the sight of my mother, he taught me and said to me, “Let your heart hold fast my words; keep my commandments, and live. Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth.

I love you with God’s love
I want a good long life for you
I am the first person in line who is for you

Emphasize Delight Over Discipline   

Proverbs 3:11-12 [NIV] My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.

Love & Like: Goal is to enjoy life with your child, make memories, have fun 

Love and Like each other
Constantly working toward having fun & making memories
Occasionally correcting to get back to the goal of delight
Discipline is not to control but to teach them self-control

Capture and revisit the good times

Parenting is Seasonal

Proverbs 31:28 [ESV] Her children rise up and call her blessed

Proverbs 17:6 [NLT] Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged; parents are the pride of their children.

Conception to birth – preparing your heart & home (car seat, birthing classes, nutrition)
Baby (birth to 18 months) – feeding and nurturing so the child develops (emotional bond, comforting touch, feeding, investing body/soul/mind, touching everything & tactile learning)
Toddler (18 mos to 3 yrs) – informal training (“no”, emotional regulation, rules, part of a group, delayed gratification, chores, form preferences, reading to)
Preschooler (3-6 yrs) – consistent training during busy years (reading with, formal learning, “why”, playing, socializing, crafts, playing outside “dirt therapy”)
School age (6-12 years) – character and identity formation (growing independence, parents not always present, interest exploration, friend groups form, style) 
Teens (13-18) – transition (identity, puberty, moodiness, their world, test boundaries)
Young adults (19+) – cultivating responsible independence (bills, job, self govern)
Adults – lifting burdens and being wise counsel
Every season – blessings & challenges
Conflict happens when parent and child don’t move into next season together
Dad & son story (kids & grandkids)